Sistas, Unfriend These Sorry Ass Brothas on Facebook Or We’ll Unfriend You
I’m a little upset but I been through the hood, real war, college, crappy jobs, different countries, dotcom stock options, major corporate jobs and entrepreneurial ventures and don’t got time for a Black woman that put up with these sorry ass Black brothas. I put in too much work as a Black man to be a good man for a sista and if she still want to coddle these sorry ass brothas, it’s plenty of Ethiopian sistas on Clairmont here in Atlanta with a sick ass-to-waist ratio this brotha can get with.
On Facebook, I’ve seen something happen multiple times and this is a major problem for Black women and they need to acknowledge it. When a sista put up a picture of herself and maybe she has a pretty face pic or she got a body shot and you see her curves, she gets a response. Her girlfriends will say something like she look nice and the guys will press the like button and then you got at least one or two brothas that will make the following statement:
“Hey, I’m going to be in your area visiting..can we hookup?”
“Damn you is thick in the thighs just how I like them!”
You sistas are getting this one-time briefing by us real Black men out here – the guy who posted those kind of comments is a piece of sh*t and you better unfriend their sorry ass ASAP. If not, then I will unfriend your sorry ass for putting up with these kind of sorry ass brothas. This type of sexist posting is from the kind of guy you hear on the news that gets his ass shot up in the Black community all the time because he pull crap like this out his mouth without thinking.
The kind of brotha that will post some kind of request to hookup on your Facebook pic or talk about you in a sexy way is a narcissist psychopath. He doesn’t give a damn that you as a Black sista have your grandma, your pastor, your sorority sistas or your 15 year old son as a Facebook friend and they also have to see that chauvinist message he posted. He doesn’t even give a sh*t that half the brothas you already f*cked are your FB friends and also see his message propositioning you like he is all that of a dude to make such a public proposition under your pic. Like all he have to do is post some ish like that publicly and it’s all good.
Think about it, do we real brothas need to make a public comment about you sistas on Facebook when you post up a pic? If I want to get at a sista on Facebook, I would just send a private message to just call and she would call a brotha and that’s it. That’s because we real brothas have respect for a sista identity and who she is as a woman. This sexist piece of sh*t brotha posting his comment about her body or asking if he can go out with her is only thinking about what he can get from the sista – that’s why you sistas better drop that piece of sh*t immediately from your Facebook friend list.
That knucklehead already sent you sistas the message that he don’t respect you and in addition, he don’t know how to approach you without letting the whole world know. That brotha is a straight up chump that has a personal problem getting with a woman in general and the kind of cat that will run his mouth on Facebook that he got with you if you actually follow through with that clown. But most important, it’s disrespectful for the rest of us brothas who do respect you to allow this kind of moronic prick be around you when we real brothas showing you the respect you deserve as a Black woman.
The real problem is sistas are not allowed to express themselves without fear of some knucklehead brotha coming around making sexist remarks or trying to publicly initiate some mating ritual and that is sad. This is a rampant pattern in the African-American community of egotistic male chauvinist brothas trying to show Black women “their place” by making these kind of sexist comments on Facebook.
Sistas be working out at the gym, saving up for their Hawaii vacation and they post up a pic of them in a bikini on Waikiki beach and some brotha on Facebook want to say you look juicy enough to eat as his comment, demeaning your whole existence as a woman to his self-serving sexual desire. And because of this knucklehead, you cannot express who you are without his remarks and that’s wrong. That’s why brothas like me want to pistol-whip the living ish out of him and have to mentally restrain ourselves because we can’t see sistas be naturally beautiful and expressive.
Look, sistas are the ones who make the call because a real man like me will straight take this clown and his macho ego out because we don’t like these kinds of clowns around us. And when you sistas tend to put up with these kind of clowns, then we brothas really don’t want to put up with you sistas and think you are twice as stupid as the dumb ass brotha playing you for a fool out in public on Facebook among all your Facebook friends when you post up a pic and let him slide insulting and demeaning you like that.
Real talk, you sistas better dump and unfriend that piece of sh*t brotha as soon as he make that kind of comment when you post up a pic of yourself. He is the kind of brotha that hates Black women to be independent and free and thinks he can just sweet talk you sistas into a doggy style position and he brags about that to other guys just like him in the gym locker room. I and other real brothas cannot approach him because we really want to do major damage to his punk chump ass but at the same time, we real brothas ain’t fighting over no female who ain’t woman enough to demand respect for herself either.
I agree with you on guys going too far with the comments and showing their underlying thirst. That said, no artist puts their work on display in a public gallery to only view it themselves; they must want the attention and criticism that being on a public forum provides them and the same could be said of mirror pic posters (both male and female).
If they’re trying to jumpstart their modeling career they should post up at ModelMayhem.com, not FB. Facebook is another means of entertainment the same as a basketball or football game meaning there’s going to be commentary because that’s the nature of the game. If they want only their closest friends to see those pics they should email them or text them directly. Guys should have the common sense to not lay themselves out there like that in the same way that women should know not to put up suggestive pictures without expecting pot shots at their sexuality. Personally I don’t want to see it if I can’t take it home with me; if I wanted strip club action I’d go to a strip club, not a social networking site.
Common sense is, often uncommon.
Miles I agree with what you say about the amateur models and strippers but these guys are making these comments towards everyday sistas.
For example, I sista I grew up with mother just passed away. This sista posted a pic of her and her mom at the beach laid out on the beach. People knew the context and posted appropiately. Mind you she is over 40 and a single mom. Some guy posted that she and her mom got a nice body and this guy is someone we also grew up with that is 40. He is not even the specific example I speak of in this blog but this is the rampant sexist crap by brothas towards sistas on Facebook and I did not realize how widespread this is.
Think about it… do real women want their pastor, boss whoever to see them in a bikini? Do real women post a pic of themselves in those pumps that make their butt sit up nice for the whole world to see? I think a woman should have more respect for herself and not post pics in a bikini or in a bathroom with her breast and butt out. If a woman does not have that respect than surely a man will not. And most of the time the pics are meant to get that kind of reaction. It is the woman’s way of boosting her own ego. So both are on the hook for this one. The only thing you getting out of me is a silhouette in regular clothes. Not bra, panties, cleavage or butt cheeks. Said things are to be reserved for personal one on one sessions. Folks need to stop with the narcissism.
Tiara, I hear you on the characters that are attention seeking and they been that way since Blackplanet was popular. But now I realize that is the gawkin culture these guys come from and cannot help themselves being a moron when it comes to women.
As an individual, I should post the real me and be me without worrying about some knucklehead and their sideline commentary passing their self-serving judgement on me. I do not feel women should be forced to wear burkas when they upload pics on Facebook.
Black men need to show some grown up respects and sistas should be demanding it.