It seems like my days of exclusively dating African-American sistas are really coming to an end hard and fast. Sistas are running around talking up crap on blogs about divesting from brothas but damn, who wants to in invest in what African-American women are about today? The truth of the day is good Black men got options worldwide when it comes to sistas and globalization is playing a big role in that.
As I Walked to My Car..
Let me tell you my most recent experience and I don’t want to give away too much information. I was at a restaurant where this super fine African sista with a natural curvy body (really nice round booty) and natural curly hair had served me lunch for the past several weeks. I had conversations with her about where she from in Africa and I even let her know she is a beautiful lady. It was just a casual conversation but friendly and flirty but I’m just being me.
Okay, one day I was hungry and stopped at the restaurant again didn’t think she worked that day. I actually was being served by the other guy from Africa who was being cool and I saw her again serving the other side of the room. I waved at her and she smiled but she was busy and working hard so I thought nothing of it. I paid my for my lunch and walked out towards my car.
When I pulled my door handle, I saw the African sista who used to serve me come out of the restaurant, saying “hi!” to me and walking towards me with a big glowing smile. I wanted to see if something was wrong and she just told me she wanted to say bye. I smiled and thanked her and told her I will be back soon because the food is so good. I watched her walked away back into the restaurant, got in my car and didn’t turn on the engine because I was reflecting.
See, this is how African-American women used to treat us brothas back in the days with that country/southern hospitality but that was 20 to 30 years ago. See, I became glad and sad at the same time because that was the first time in 20 to 30 years a Black women even done something like to me and it was sad because I’m looking at all of the African-American women I dated in my past and how shitty and unloving 90% of those African-American sistas were towards me with their attitude and mannerism.
Primal Mating Instincts
I had to edit this article because I had five more stories of women I dated worldwide but I was just being way too detailed about going jeep riding along the mountainside with a Latina sista in Central America, hanging out with a Blasian sista when I was in Tokyo (this was spontaneous), and some of the conversations I had with African sistas who shook the core of my Black DNA of how we brothas and sistas should be towards each other instinctively.
All of these sistas from overseas were nice, had beautiful manners towards me and I discovered a natural mating ritual going on that my primal instincts picked up on. I will never forget that feeling or experience and it was the real and natural experience of a man encountering a women that I never got from my Westernized upbringing.
But when I’m going out with an African-American sista, I don’t get that primal feeling of the natural mating process going on – all I get from her is vibes of made-up bullshit and the feeling I have to “run game” on an African-American sista to get her attention. To be fair, this is probably not the African-American sista fault but our Eurocentric Westernized upbringing as many sistas in Asia and these “princesses” from other countries that grew up in America have that same shitty attitude. Quite frankly, after going through that primal instinct feeling of the natural mating process and natural attraction to a woman, I don’t ever want to deal with that Westernized bullcrap ever in my life again, if you want me to be honest.
The Environment and Setup
So now the sistas from overseas introduced me and awoken my primal instincts to the natural mating process and I realize how they did it and how the African-American sistas did not. When I was overseas or even in America, I noticed what the overseas sistas wanted to do with me.
They all wanted me to go do simple things that didn’t cost a lot of money. Like go to a big park reserve and walk and hang out, go to the beach, go to an outside café or coffee shop. The finest women I ever dated in my life and also the finest women I ever saw in my life was a sista from Guinea-Bissau. The funny part was I was waiting on an African-American sista who is always late and this bilingual French-speaking African sista approached me, asked me if I’m African and gave me her phone number. The finest women I ever met in my life, she just wanted to hang out at Starbucks.
Now, my history with African-American sistas and I’m going to make only one exception – sistas in New York City. Anybody who knows me know that I absolutely love sistas from New York, especially Queens and Brooklyn sistas. But outside of New York City, my experience with sistas is they want me to spend a lot of money on them going out to eat here and there, go watch this play or movie or concert with them and all this other silly ass prerequisites before we get some quality time together.
But here is the problem with African-American sistas – okay, I spend all this damn money and pretending like I’m rich around this chick and we finally get together at a spot. No primal mating instinct feeling..just the type of unfulfilling lame sex cats much seen in these porn movies where you just get some cheap orgasm and want to go do something else afterwards. I don’t care if a sista is stimulating my frenulum against her clitoris while my shaft agitates her internal erogenous zone to the point of orgasm in the reverse cowgirl position; the sex is lame because I have to keep thinking of all the bullshit and money I spent to even get to this point.
Had Enough and Not Going to Take It Anymore
All this African-American women “friends first” bullshit and all these sistas saying to me “I like a man that..” but she got a history of f*cking knucklehead cats with dirty d*cks and everything else, I’m tired of it and I don’t want that shit in my life anymore because it never made me happy. I’m just going to call it and say real talk, I’m just plain and simple tired of dealing with African-American women bullshit all my life and rather deal with some other sistas bullshit just to try something different.
The incident where that African sista ran out after me leaving the restaurant that was the breaking point because it was the first time in a long time a Black woman went out her way to acknowledge this non-celebrity regular brotha. I thought about riding shotgun in a jeep with a sista from Argentina in Central America and out of the blue she told me that I was a good man and she can see it in my eyes and heart – no African-American sista ever told me that in her life, even if she believed that was true. Sistas in America be giving me that look on how they going to run some scheme or game on me like I’m stupid and ish.
Well, I’m not stupid nor emasculated and that makes me incompatible with 90% of the African-American women out there. And this is what I learned about women overseas that makes African-American women stupid and I know because I’ve been dating African-American all my life and know what I’m talking about. I noticed African-American want a brotha to go eat at some restaurant, go to the movie, go to a concert or play, go to a club or lounge and all that other stuff. That’s where African-American sistas f*ck up at that foreign women take advantage of to get a Black man.
See, the dumb ass African-American sistas be taking a brotha to a place he is distracted and cost a lot of money. Go eat at a restaurant where the wait staff bothers us every 6 minutes while we are talking. Go to a movie where I’m staring at the screen and not paying her any attention – that’s what African-American women do. Go look at some closet-homosexual play or one of his movies and wonder why she brought a brotha to see this ignorant crap.
But I realize a foreign sista knows the primal instincts of a man and the mating process. African sista take a brotha to Starbucks coffee on a Saturday night? Did you figure that one out? Because she was smart enough to put a brotha in a situation where she is the center of attention and a brotha gives all his attention to her. I go out with an Indian sista and she brings her dishes with rice in one plastic container and chicken and some spices and make my plate and we sit somewhere quiet or at my house. The Asian sista ask if I would like some tea and we sit together and make the tea together and pour our own cup and let it cool off. All of these women put a brotha in a situation where she is the center of all attention; this is what African-American women do not do.
Chasing Love, Not Sex
When it comes to sex, African-American women use sex as a trophy or end-game and this is why Black-on-Black love has been a f*cking failure since the 60s. Talk to any African-American women today and she got tons of bullshit game in the way of having sex with a brotha and straight trying to run game holding sex over his head like a carrot. Sistas overseas are smarter and I realize exactly what they are doing. They ain’t looking for sex or even place value on sex like that; they will make love to a brotha like a king the first night if we want to be real about it. What foreign sistas use as the trophy or end-game is love – that is what we all want at the end of the day and they know how to pursue the real goal. It’s funny because African-American women actually believe Black men run to Brazil for sex – no, it’s something else other than sex, my Afro-American sistas – get a damn clue.
The sista overseas is always smiling and chasing us brothas and we pay attention to her. When I setup a date with a sista from Africa, we are not going to the mall, not going to the show, not going out to eat at Frank Ski restaurant – we are going to Starbucks and sit on the couches! I’m going straight to her spot and we are going to eat together and talk like grown-ups – she is welcoming me in her world and making sure I see her at the center of attraction. She is naturally setting up not only the mating process, but the whole process of finding a mate – that is why they can snatch up African-American brothas, the good brothas with new money at the rate they are doing today while African-American sistas have sex toy parties and masterbate with those toys all by themselves.
Not Going to Settle for Some Ignorant Hateful Ish Anymore
So yeah, sistas here in America can talk all the ish they want about us Black men and keep trying to tear us down and talk down on us like they got options. No, we brothas especially us who got our ish on, we are the one with options. A big butt and a smile is not patented by African-American women, every brown nation on this planet, their sistas got bodies built like that. And I can testify their doggy style is just as good if not better than any African-American sista doggy style so let’s put that one out there to end all doubts and rhetoric.
So I wish a African-American sista would come at me saying go chase them sistas from overseas like her American ratchet behind won’t miss this brotha because I will do nothing but smile all back in her face because I definitely won’t be missing her negative African-American Black ass either.