If You Ignore Them, They Will Not Go Away
One of the funniest thing I experience is when cats want to “ignore” someone. I don’t really get people who think by shutting off communication that they are “sending a message” to someone. Maybe these are the type of people that mommy and daddy ignored when they were a child and they think they can hurt someone else buy ignoring. I’m sorry, that “snubbing” thing is one of the most stupidest thing I ever heard.
Let me give people a bit of advice that think “ignoring” or “snubbing” or “not acknowledge” or whatever they want to call it is an effective communication strategy – it is not. The only reasons I can think why anyone would employ this dumbass strategy are (1) they egotistically believe they are in control of how other people think or react to their actions or inactions (2) they really don’t have anything effective to say.
The worst part about “ignoring” and this is the part that makes me laugh is those who employ this strategy – they being silent allow the person they ignoring create propaganda speaking for the person doing the ignoring. If a cat that want to snub ain’t got nothing to say, then cats can start speaking for that other person about the situation and turn the tables. Even worst, it allows their foe to plot strategies while pretending to be affected by the snub. Just because someone ignores somebody does not mean they are going away and disappear – that’s just meaningless thinking.
Haven’t we learned so many times from history, you cannot afford to close communication off and “ignore” or “snub” people? No real leader, no real warrior, no real business person cut off communication with their foes and adversaries. Always treat people with dignity and respect, always let people know you are fair and open for discussion.
Now there is a difference than not being bothered with somebody and ignoring somebody. Some people you come to realize is full of crap and you just don’t bother with them anymore because they are a waste of your time. But some cats when they are ignoring others are spending energy doing just that, hoping that their actions of snubbing sends a message.
Don’t spend a second trying to ignore or snub because that requires work. Just don’t bother with cats who ain’t about what you about and just move on. Besides, where they going to go when you ignore them?
The new layout looks well. Haven’t checked it all out but good thus far. A few things. I do not know what it is but when reading the article, it almost looks like the words are cut off to the left. Naturally I want to move the scroll bar to the left but it is already as far as it goes.
Next, is it possible to ignore and not be bothered at the same time. I mean I am not trying to hide anything I just hate confrontation. I know how to speak my mind but I just get this anxiety when it comes to negative stuff. Case in point a young lady who has made it her life mission to spread rumors and lies about me. I discussed this with a trustworthy individual who told me point blank to sit down and talk about it with her and offered to “mediate”. I brushed it off. Why? The last time I tried to “talk” it out with this girl I was ready to kill her. I tried to remain calm and “use my words” but in the end I just lost myself. I felt like she was about something else other than the issues at hand. (She’s one of those people who likes to fight). I felt like I didn’t even realize what I was doing and I don’t want that to happen again. So secretly I wish things would go away. I figure if I ignore it/her and keep doing what I do, folks will eventually see that she is lying. To me the fact that folks are just soaking in everything she says is bothersome and mind baffling but I cannot spend every waking hour defending myself. It has been going on so long I am drained. How can this be addressed?
I will look into the left margin issue – are you using a tablet or a desktop computer?
The question you ask can go into the question and answer section for multiple people to answer. But as I stated, some people are not worth bothering with – if you don’t need to speak to them, don’t bother with them.
I was using a desktop. I see the pages fine on my laptop.
I see what you are saying. By “ignoring” a person, you are putting effort into the “ignoring” Walking past them and making an effort to not look at them when you know and they know that you see them. Or they say something andyou ignore them and they think “she heard me, she tryna pretend she didnt hear me” So I see what you are saying. I dont bother with a certain person anymore, after recieving so many rediculous emails from them I put their email address on block, that way, when they send me something and dont recieve a response, that makes a person go crazy like “did they even get it?” “did she read it?” although I do have to go around this person when we do an exchange of our child, I just focus on her and speak in an excited tone to her, and not acknowledge he is even standing there. Or because it is so cold outside, i just stay in the car and she is old enough to come out herself and get in, I dont even bother with him anymore.
I hear you on that Honey. Got a text message, went like this: Him: “How was your day?” Me: “Fine” Him: “I know what you look like I meant how was your day at work?” Me:……. Didn’t even respond. I don’t have time for that ish. Just stick to script brother. No need for the extra. I won’t go on. Ed may not like this.
The two words ladies can send a guy off his way is “thank you” – that let dude know it’s time to move on.
Him: How are you…
Her: Fine. Thank you…
That’s all a man need to know to hear and know exactly what it means..